Ramadan Mellow Moments – Moms! Tips for the last TEN days

Asalam Alaykum Dearest Moms,

We are already half way through the month of Ramadan, I pray you are enjoying the month so far.

The first of the last odd night begins on the 7th July 2015 if you are not prepared for it, not to worry you can start right now!

What is important is to identify the distractions and obstacles that are getting in the way of your Ebaadah(Worship) to Allah aza wa jal, then devising a plan on how to remove these stumbling blocks in order to fulfil our commitment of increasing in our worship to Allah so we can reap the benefits of this month and the blessings it brings with it.

Some of us are already feeling the GUILT trip.  Look! Moms, no matter where you are, you can start planning for the remainder of the month just jump in.  Allah is the most forgiving and most Merciful – azza wa jal.

Allah loves deeds that are  small, regular and consistent.  You know your personal and family circumstances better than anyone else, this is the time to put  Despite us winding on the worldly activities, we still have things to do.  Allah tells us in Quran “On no soul Allah places a burden greater than It can bear…….” [Qur’an 2:286]

Don’t get overwhelmed, mothers have a lot of responsibilities to juggle so we have to plan wisely to avoid burnout, we must get smarter with our intentions Insha Allah.

It’s about being smarter with our intentions and not working harder, we will end up burning the candle at both ends.

Okay, here are few things for us to get started on to achieve your best Ramadan ever.

Your Vision

Moms,  it’s absolutely necessary to begin with the end in mind.  So today is the day of EID! what does it look like, feel like, what are the people around you saying?  what are you saying to yourself? Are you looking back saying “that was my BEST Ramadan ever? or are you saying “Ramadan went by so quickly I was not able to do as much Wbaadah as I would have loved to do, I pray and hope Allah spare me to next Ramadan so I can give it another shot” – not a nice place to be and we should avoid it at all cost!

The good thing is that there is still time for us to make a few adjustments in our lives before we finally welcome Ramadan.   You know the famous saying “Begin with the End in Mind”

Here are a few things you can do to help us over the next few days

  • Fatigue.   We also means us get tired easily, as a result of us cooking, being on your feet all day  looking after the children, taking care of the home and also those who run a business at home or  go out to work.    It’s difficult to be on your feet all day and find time for Eebaadah, so we have to look at what we can do away with and focus on what is important. So we are able to grow, spiritually and intellectually.
    • Get a nap even if it’s 10mins, you will still feel fresh and re-energised. I know it’s not always possible just give it a go
    • Give your kids plenty of creative activities to do, that will keep them busy
    • You are not super Mom, so ask your husband, family and friends for help look after the kids for a few hours whilst you focus on your Ebaadah
    • Watch what you eat, switch to foods that are wholesome and filling
  • Plan and cook simple meals for Iftar and Suhoor., Ramadan is a  month to give the body a break from the regular eating and start feeding our souls with the spiritual diet it needs to re-energise and blossom again after months of neglect.
    • you can even send your husband to the masjid to have iftar and pray in the masjid, that wull relieve you of cooking. Please speak to him in a polite manner.
  • Use the pocket of times during the day to make Dhikr to Allah SWT, listen to the Qur’an and lectures, you don’t have to wait till you have hours of free time.
  •  Pace yourself- keep the energy levels up, don’t overwork yourself, eat healthy, keep yourself hydrated and if you can – any light form of exercise.
  • Scale down on the non-essential chores and pick them up after Ramadan. We should be scaling down on worldly duties and do more of what will earn us Al Firdaws.
  • Other forms of Eebaadah to increase our levels of Eeman, we tend to think that fasting, reciting the Qur’an and praying are the main forms of Ebaadah. Although they are very important there are other things you can do as well to reap bag loads of rewards from Allah SWT. Look for these things and  do more of them during Ramadan.  I have listed  a few that I love doing :
    • Ensuring that we perform complete wudu before Salah
    • Plant trees – making sure that I say  “SubhanAllah, Alhamdulillah, Walla Ilaaha Illallah, Wallahu Akbar, knowing that Allah is planting trees for me in Jannah !and it only take  Seconds!
    • Charitable acts by giving sadaqah and also giving dawah to others, you can always start with you neighbours.

We would like you to share some tips on what you are doing to make Ramadan productive for you and your family. Please share.

Remember Allah loves the DEEDS that are SMALL and CONSISTENT.

 

Here are links to my latest interview on Moms Preparing for Ramadan and a recording I did last year which I think is very much relevant.

>>>>click here to listen to a podcast I did on how Moms can prepare for Ramadan – Select Interview 2 <<<<

 

 

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